I did take down the image of his note as I was in the anger stages and hated his guts, but I met the guy today who hit me, he's a veteran over 80 yrs old and was very honest with me. We talked and he decided that the damage was more significant than he had initially thought so he decided to go through his insurance.
I did get 1 quote for about $1020 painted and installed(new bumper is $312.24 from the dealer, rest is labor and painting), i'll check out other places and any recommendations are appreciated.